Reflections On Forgiveness

To forgive does not mean giving in but letting go. Whether or not you think someone deserves your forgiveness, you deserve to forgive them because that is the only way of setting each other free. Holding onto anger is a way of trying to compensate for the powerlessness we feel when someone hurts us. It is important to find a way of letting go of anger, by talking with the person who hurt us, without attacking or blaming them, but by describing the effect their behaviour had on us and the world of our feelings. Listening to another’s point of view helps us to see things from a different perspective. It makes us more tolerant and shows us the way to true and lasting forgiveness that comes from our heart, instead of our head.

If, for any reason, we cannot communicate with the people who have hurt us, writing down what happened the way we experienced it can be a good release. Talking the matter over with a friend or a counsellor is another way of letting go. In my view, forgiving does not necessarily mean forgetting. It is not easy to forget hurts, but even partial forgiveness is beneficial because re-living past painful incidents time and again is bad for our health; it increases our susceptibility to illness. Forgiving is good for our body, as well as our soul. If it is more than we can manage on our own, God and the Angels are waiting to be called upon for their assistance.

After all, to err is human and to forgive is Divine. And forgiveness brings inner peace; meditation and prayers are the best ways of finding both.

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