Healing The Wounded Inner Child
Part One
In the process of surrendering yourself to the Highest, in spite of the fact that this is what you most dearly want to do, you may discover that there is something in you that simply refuses to let go. This is because in the subconscious of every human being there dwells a small and frightened child that is urgently in need of being comforted and healed. To this day, it desperately tries to cling onto its mother’s hand, which it probably never has been able to reach, but still the child holds on tightly because it’s too afraid to let go and set itself free.
What can we do to help this part of our being to trust the processes of life and its basic goodness, and help it to understand that we shall always be safe? We, the adult awakened self part, need to explain to the child part as patiently and lovingly as possible that by now we have found out that everything in the whole of Creation is ruled by Universal laws, which all life has to obey. We also learned that we are responsible for every one of our thoughts, words and actions, and that they go round in circles and eventually find their way back to us in some form. The suffering we had to endure in our earlier years was an example of how the pain we caused others in previous lifetimes can and indeed does return. It came about not as some kind of punishment but to teach us vital lessons about the nature of suffering and pain, at the giving end as well as the receiving one.
Talking with our child needs to be done the same as one would in the case of any small child, who is lost in the harsh and often cruel realities of earthly life and sobbing its heart out over the insensitivities of the people around it. Through its suffering our child has reached early maturity. And because it is also intelligent, it is beginning to understand that, if we suffered earlier in life at the hands of our parents, this could only happen because that’s what we did to our children in other lifetimes.
It will comfort the child to know that in truth the people involved were not really bad and that they merely agreed to play the role of unkind and at times cruel parents so that we should learn what it’s like to be treated in this manner. The child will be relieved to hear that all earthly parents are only substitutes who temporarily take the place of our real parents, the Great Father/Mother of all life, on the highest levels, for the teaching of our earthly lessons. Should other lifetimes in physicality be required by us, we shall be able to get the benefit of the learning, in the form of the wisdom and understanding we gained from every one of our experiences. Stored in the memories of our soul, they will be helping us to cope with our existence and at least in some respects, i.e. the lessons that have already been covered, do better next time round.
If your child is frightened of people in general, it will be able to lose this fear when you explain that the world around us is a mirror of what we ourselves are. Tell your child that this means when we are good and kind, loving and honest in your dealings with people, they reflect the same back to us because our goodness brings theirs to the fore. Mention that the behaviour of your present lifetime’s earthly parents taught you through their example how you do not want to be. Through the suffering any nasty people that come into our orbit inflict upon us, they are actually helping us to shed the nastier parts of our own nature, which they are still acting out. That’s how they can truly be among the best teachers anyone could hope to find. Let’s not forget to thank them for this and also for helping us to pay our Karmic debts and balancing our spiritual account, and then send them our forgiveness for any kind of mental/emotional/spiritual/physical pain they caused us.
The child is part of the small earthly self who to this day is afraid that further experiences of this nature might be ahead, but once we have dealt with this aspect of our being and left it behind, there will be no need for drawing further people with that kind of behaviour towards us. We are only free to move on to lessons of a higher nature when at last we have freed our child self of its fear of people, what the future may hold in store and life in general. For as long as this part of us clings to what little it knows about these themes, it remains stuck in its spiritual development and your whole being with it.
The only one who can come to the rescue is you, its own awakened adult self. The knight in shining armour of fairytales, who appears when the time is right, to rescue the damsel in distress is a symbolism for the role you are playing and the knowledge you are bringing. That’s what it takes to make the bit of poisoned apple that once choked the beautiful princess and sent her into a deathlike state of existence, i.e. earthly life. The poisonous apple stands for the false beliefs, prejudices and superstitions that have accumulated in our consciousness in the course of many lifetimes. They indeed have the power of sending our spirit child into a deathlike state of its earthly existence.
Full access to the gifts and talents we developed in previous lifetimes can only be gained when the slumbering princess, our spirit and soul, awakens and realises that she is but temporarily encased in matter. The knowledge we have found and are bringing to her makes the poisonous particles of the wrong kind of spiritual food shoot out of our child self’s throat and helps it to once again become aware of its true nature and the realities of her true parents and home.
Where the light of God’s wisdom and truth penetrates, all darkness disperses and it does not take long until our inner child recognises the voice of its true Father/Mother who is calling from its true home. The realisation that in truth it is a child of the Highest Star and the brightest light in the whole of Creation rouses it from its spiritual slumbers and also helps it become aware that it truly is a prince as well as a princess of the most royal line of all, a young God in the making.
Whenever we understand what any kind of experience was intended to teach us and the learning gained from it has been absorbed into our consciousness, a repeat performance will neither be possible nor necessary. And the only thing that can finally bring all Karmic chains of events to an end and stop them from repeating themselves lifetime after lifetime, over and over again, is forgiveness. First and foremost there is the necessity of forgiving ourselves for our behaviour that once set in motion the wheels of any chain of events.
The next step is forgiving all who took part in its most recent manifestation and thank them for being our teachers and playing a vital role in the shedding of some of the nastier aspects of our nature. It was this that allowed us to evolve into the kind and loving person we always wanted to be, but somehow never could earlier on. It’s also a good idea to invite those who took on the role of ‘baddies’ in this drama of life into one or two of our meditations, to ask them to forgive us for any suffering we may have caused them, so we can set each other free.
From the evolutionary point we have reached by now, it is not difficult to see that the events of those days long gone by took place for good reasons, including the fact that the helping hand and advice of a kind, loving and wise mother and/or father were never there for us. The underlying purpose is that it would eventually force us to turn to our true parents, the Great Father/Mother, the only ones who never leave us and who will forever keep us truly safe. They alone can give the kind of security all of us are looking for in vain in earthly life.
The realisation of this awakens in us the need for making our peace with the parents of this lifetime, so that when we meet one of these days in the world of spirit, if we so wish, it will be as sisters and brothers rather than the all too often distorted perceptions of parents and child. We shall stand before each other in a relationship of friendship and kinship – not of blood, which to my mind is by no means the most important part of any relationship –, but of spirit. Blood ties may consist of Karmic bonds only, whereas spiritual ones to me means likeminded people who are drawn together to pursue their hopes and dreams of a more peaceful world by making it a reality in their own lives.
Recommended Reading:
• ‘Karma In Families’
• ‘Our Afflictions Are Not Ancestral Curses’
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The above is a chapter from ‘Astrology As A Lifehelp In Relationship Healing’.
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